there's a scene with Leonard and Howard whinging about how women exploit smart/nice guys, with a litany of all the times they did some girl's homework in high school and she, amazingly, didn't put out
Ugh, I missed that one - thankfully! I'd probably have been shouting at the screen otherwise :D But it's a horrible situation, and it's always good to read other girls' opinions on this - so thanks! :)
In regards to that bit from The Big Bang Theory: so what if a bloke is nice to a girl? She shouldn't have to reciprocate. Love/relationships shouldn't be about control or manipulation - the idea that 'favours' should be repaid - it's all about caring for the other person more than yourself and actually showing them some respect. I'm pretty sure that if a guy was not attracted to a particular woman who was showing a high level of interest and belief that they should be together, he'd be the first to declare that she's a psycho and castigate her.
I seriously believe that these 'nice' guys have the wrong definition of what 'niceness' actually is.
Oh, and that xkcd comic is spot on! Some friends emailed it to me recently and it really does sum up every bloke like that. If only it weren't so true!
(by the way I've friended you, hope that's alright!)
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on 2009-02-24 05:45 pm (UTC)Ugh, I missed that one - thankfully! I'd probably have been shouting at the screen otherwise :D But it's a horrible situation, and it's always good to read other girls' opinions on this - so thanks! :)
In regards to that bit from The Big Bang Theory: so what if a bloke is nice to a girl? She shouldn't have to reciprocate. Love/relationships shouldn't be about control or manipulation - the idea that 'favours' should be repaid - it's all about caring for the other person more than yourself and actually showing them some respect. I'm pretty sure that if a guy was not attracted to a particular woman who was showing a high level of interest and belief that they should be together, he'd be the first to declare that she's a psycho and castigate her.
I seriously believe that these 'nice' guys have the wrong definition of what 'niceness' actually is.
Oh, and that xkcd comic is spot on! Some friends emailed it to me recently and it really does sum up every bloke like that. If only it weren't so true!
(by the way I've friended you, hope that's alright!)